Create a Mastermind Group to Skyrocket Your Success
“It Takes Teamwork to Make The Dream Work.” -Christopher Howard
I don’t usually like sports analogies, mostly because they tend to be overused, but today this analogy will help you see your friends differently. Think of a basketball game, a hockey game, or a soccer game. How often do you see one person alone score the winning goal? It usually takes a whole team to make a goal. Whether or not you witness the domino effect that each member plays in the game, they were there for each other and they contributed to that goal. This same phenomenon applies to your life too.
Unsupportive Friends and Family
Everyone has support groups, whether they know it or not. Your support group is that core set of people in your life who influence you and help you out. Your support group can be made up of family members, friends, acquaintances and coworkers. Sometimes your support group is not as supportive as you might like.
I have often noticed this happening when it comes to dieting and weight loss. Oftentimes when a woman decides to go on a diet, her friends or family members will be less than supportive. They might joke and tell her that she’ll be back to eating chips and chocolate cake in no time. Or that she will never last more than 15 minutes at the gym.
Sometimes the lack of support can be shown in less obvious ways. A friend might ask the dieter if she wants to go pig out on pizza with her. She might buy her a large tub of ice cream. Or she might decide to drop by her home when she knows that it is a designated exercise hour. Similarly, husbands and children might decide to bake desserts or popcorn. Or might take her to her favorite fast food joint, even knowing that she is not eating that type of food anymore.
All of these things can undermine a woman’s dieting and weight loss efforts. Moreover, this type of reaction by so-called friends and family members can happen at any point when you decide to make changes in your life or to seek success.
Why Don’t They Support Me?
The first step to getting a supportive group of people in your inner circle is to understand why they aren’t supporting you. Ask yourself what they have to gain by your lack of success? Sometimes the answers can be startling. In the example of weight loss, some friends might not want you to become thin or to diet because that threatens their own self image. It could also mean that you would be less likely to go eat unhealthy foods with them like you did in the past. Your family members might think that you are trying to force your new lifestyle and habits onto them.
Other examples of reasons why these people might not want you to succeed in life, love and finance are:
- If you get too successful you won’t want to spend time with them anymore. (Or you won’t think they are cool, worthy, etc.)
- If you don’t have the same problems as you currently do, then you won’t be able to complain with them about the same issues. (A lot of negative relationships are formed through complaining and whining. Steer clear.)
- Your changes might show them how much work they need to do on themselves.
The Mastermind Group
The solution to unsupportive people is to create a Mastermind Group. Oftentimes we surround ourselves with people we have known our whole lives or who happened to cross our path by shared circumstances. But what would happen if you decided to actively seek out a group of people who are great for you? A group of people who would encourage you, support you, and cheer you on. These people exist and it is a just a matter of finding them.
You might be able to include some of your current friends and family members into your new mastermind group. However be sure to pick only those that truly do believe in you and your potential to succeed. So where do you find these new mastermind folks?
- Join groups that reflect your interests on Ning and then make friends.
- Visit Meetup to see if there is already a group started for your area and try to join the next meetup to find others of like mind. If not, you could create one.
- Look for local organizations that promote events and once there, mingle and see if anyone fits your ideal mastermind member.
- Go to Toastmasters and give a speech about your interests or business. If anyone expresses interest in keeping in touch, that’s great.
So what are you waiting for? Get out there and mingle. Once you have found a few people who are supportive of you, be sure to return the favor. The more we help each other, the better we make the world.
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August 17, 2008 at 3:55 pm
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